"Please Offer Me A Seat"

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"Please Offer Me A Seat"

Postby bigbuzzard » Mon May 15, 2017 9:18 pm

I haven't been here for a while. Was prompted to drop in by this image of something a friend just posted on Facebook (she has ME).
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Re: "Please Offer Me A Seat"

Postby Thumps » Tue May 16, 2017 1:11 pm

This is excellent. :)
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Re: "Please Offer Me A Seat"

Postby Rik » Wed May 17, 2017 10:00 am

not that it will do a lot ... London is so different from anywhere else ...
I stood all the way on the tube with my walking stick going too and from hospital ...
and at no time was there even a hint of a seat being given up ...
if a walking stick doesn't suggest someone needs a seat ... a badge isn't going to help ...
you shouldn't need a badge for it to be obvious that you should be giving a seat up to someone ...
what's needed is good manners and common sense ...
both are majorly in short supply these days ...
though selfishness seems to be in abundance .........
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Re: "Please Offer Me A Seat"

Postby Tibbs » Thu May 18, 2017 10:54 am

Rik wrote:not that it will do a lot ... London is so different from anywhere else ...
I stood all the way on the tube with my walking stick going too and from hospital ...
and at no time was there even a hint of a seat being given up ...
if a walking stick doesn't suggest someone needs a seat ... a badge isn't going to help ...
you shouldn't need a badge for it to be obvious that you should be giving a seat up to someone ...
what's needed is good manners and common sense ...
both are majorly in short supply these days ...
though selfishness seems to be in abundance .........


I actively don't offer seats to people, even if they look old & infirm / have a stick or whatever. I used to, but would regularly get stink-eye at my judgement and a "I'm fine to stand thank you".

A lot of people I know who have physical issues are incredibly independent and take pride that while they look like they need a seat, they don't. Likewise, I have healthy looking friends who desperately need a seat, but no-one with 'common sense' would ever think they needed one.

This badge is great IMO, because it eliminates the awkwardness of making a judgement about someone you don't know.
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Re: "Please Offer Me A Seat"

Postby Thumps » Fri May 19, 2017 10:54 am

By contrast, I frequently got offered a seat when I was on crutches last year on tubes, buses and trains, and when I didn't, I felt ok asking for one when I needed it because the crutches were a great visual cue. If this badge campaign makes it easier for those without visually obvious disabilities to ask for a seat, then that's great :)
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Re: "Please Offer Me A Seat"

Postby DeanH » Fri May 19, 2017 10:23 pm

I travel into london each work day on the underground, unless someone asks for a seat or I happen to see someone who needs one then I really don't pay attention to anyone that might need one. I do think that quite a few people seem to think that people simply ignore someone who maybe needs a seat when it isn't always the case, at least it isn't for me. On my journey on the train I have headphones on meaning I can't hear anything at all other than my music and I have my head in my kindle reading, im almost completely unaware of anyone standing around my seat so just wouldn't know if they needed to sit or not and I value my reading time on the train every day so certainly wouldn't look up every few mins to see if I should give up the seat.

I would however give the seat up should someone ask for it if they needed it.
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