My mum is 89 and has Stage 5 renal failure (12% ish) as well as heart failure. She is fading fast. Her renal unit seemed to be keen to commence PD, and were planning the initial op, but she has gone downhill over the past couple of months - very tired, no appetite or interest in anything. I am expecting her to be admitted to hospital next week (her GP thought it would be sensible) to try and stabilize her. I assume that they wouldn't do any op at the moment, but would delay it until she was less unwell.
I love my Mum dearly and will be heartbroken when we (inevitably) lose her. BUT she struggles with ill health/operations/hospitals etc., and if going through all of this will only give her a couple of months, my heart tells me that it wouldn't be worth it.
Be really grateful for any thoughts/experiences etc. that anyone can share - always bearing in mind that the decision is for my Mum to make, I just want to find out what information I can.
Thank you.